Mindset | 'Manifesting in the Real World' Episode Six
Hey everyone! Welcome back, or if you’re here for the first time, nice to meet you! My name is Ebonie and this blog (and the YouTube channel) is here to help you reconnect to your intuition, so you can manifest your most magical life, in the real world!
That you for being here today, to talk about the importance of mindset and beliefs when it comes to manifesting.
At the end of this post, you’ll see a series of questions that you can journal on if you like! I recommend really spending time thinking about your answers, so you can set New Year’s resolutions and goals for 2021 that you’ll actually stick with!
Manifesting isn't just about tools and techniques. Pretty journals and divination may help, but ultimately, I believe there is a key thing that will make or break your success: your mindset, and what you believe.
Your mindset and your beliefs will either hinder you or propel you forward.
What you tell yourself will either stop you from starting, lead you to give up, or push you to try and try again until you succeed.
A couple of weeks ago when I spoke about Visualisation, I mentioned how Steve Jobs was known to live in what was called his "Reality Distortion Field". He essentially believed that what he envisioned was possible, even if the challenges seemed insurmountable.
Manifesting anything starts with believing that what you envision is possible.
Not just theoretically possible.
Not just possible for others.
Possible for you!
You don't even need to know all the details on HOW it will be possible. You just have to trust in your reason WHY you want it to happen, and believe, as much as you can, that it will happen.
Mind over matter. Just take it one wave, one step, one hurdle at a time.
You don't need fancy journals or divination methods, though they can help! They can act as reminders, help you focus, and guide you to find clarity. They can be a light that helps you see clearly.
But you already have all you truly need within you.
Tarot, journaling, visualisation, meditation... all of these things are tools and techniques that help you connect with yourself, so you can hear your intuition, so you can understand your true, inner voice. Your intuition is always there, regardless of if you're listening to it.
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What is Your Intuition?
It's that gut feeling you have about someone. It's that "vibe" you get when you walk into a room. It's a shiver down your spine, it's butterflies in your tummy.
It's an inexplicable feeling that something is either totally wrong, or absolutely right.
Intuition doesn’t need to know the logistics. It doesn’t need facts or a reality check.
Intuition feeds on your dreams and it lives in your visions.
It will help you succeed, because it knows exactly what you’re made of. It is tethered to your inner or higher self and your subconscious mind – depending on what you believe in.
Personally, I believe that our intuition is a way for our inner self and subconscious mind to communicate to us as we go about our day. From reading Tarot cards I’ve learnt that often the most random thoughts will come to mind as I read intuitively – and they’re always eerily accurate!
Your intuition will guide you, time and time again. It has all the patience in the world, and it doesn’t judge.
You can be disconnected and distracted, but your intuition will still be there, waiting for you.
No matter how removed you may feel right now from your inner self, you can find your way back through listening to your intuition.
Though that inner knowing is often buried underneath our thoughts and beliefs, influenced by our external environment, our history, our relationships, our jobs, and our daily distractions. We often don’t act purely intuitively – rather, it’s our thoughts and beliefs that guide us to act.
I believe that if our thoughts and beliefs are in alignment with our intuitive, inner selves, then we are far more likely to manifest, to achieve what we want and to live happy, fulfilled lives.
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How Your Mindset Influences Your Actions
Regardless of how connected you feel to your intuition, it is ultimately your thoughts and beliefs that will lead you to act, and every action leads to a result.
Your mindset is an accumulation of your thoughts, beliefs and experiences, and so when we consider manifesting or achieving anything, it is our mindset that will either help or hinder us.
Let’s say your goal is to start a new career, or even your own business. Your goal is to earn a full-time wage doing what you love.
Part of you believes that you can do it, that you’re capable of succeeding and if it’s something you’re passionate about, you’d be excited by the idea – yet you’re also worried that it won’t work out, and that people will judge you.
We all have fears and limiting beliefs, and sometimes, they can take over and stop us from trying.
Ask yourself this – what’s the worst-case scenario?
If the worst-case scenario happened, what would you do? Think about all the ways you could turn it around.
The worst-case scenario for starting your own business could be that you don’t make enough money, or that the business fails. You could end up being unable to pay your bills or make rent.
So, your worst-case scenario solution may be that you could find a day job, save some money, and try something else. In the absolute worst-case, you may have to move in with family or friends until you get back on your feet financially.
Obviously this is a purely hypothetical example, and it’s easier said than done, but you get the idea!
When it comes to setting goals, usually our fears are far greater than what could actually happen in reality. In reality, if something doesn’t work out, we still learn and grow so much in the process of trying.
In terms of beliefs, if you set out to achieve your goals with the belief that you will succeed, with the belief that you are capable, with the belief that what you’re setting out to accomplish is possible for you, then you’re in the right frame of mind to make it happen.
It may take time to figure out what steps you need to take, but you will learn as you go. Most answers in this day and age can be found online!
Spend the time doing the practical things, do the research and learn all that you can. At some point though, you have to trust yourself and the universe/whatever you believe in and just take action.
As you continue to experience your life based on your thoughts and beliefs, you are wiring your brain to focus on what you have deemed important to you.
I’ve mentioned the reticular activating system in my videos before, but just to quickly recap to anyone new around here!
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The Reticular Activating System
The reticular activating system is like a filter in our brains, constantly sifting through the information around us so that only what is deemed necessary reaches our attention. Essentially, if you want to attract something, the Reticular Activating System will help you get it! Whenever you come into contact with something or someone that might help lead you towards your goals or whatever you’re trying to manifest, the Reticular Activating System will focus on it. It will flag it as important.
It’s the Reticular Activating system that gives power to our thoughts and beliefs, as it influences how you see the world.
Confirming what you want to your reticular activating system is placing importance on what you want. Your reticular activating system will take note of this and highlight anything that may be relevant or helpful to you.
You can know exactly what you want, but techniques such as writing down your goals, making vision boards, visualising, scripting and so on, will really help your reticular activating system understand more clearly what you’re setting out to achieve.
Looking at the subconscious mind and the reticular activating system is what I like to think of as the logical side of manifesting.
With both the reticular activating system and the more spiritual aspects of the Law of Attraction, what you focus on, you see more of in your life.
So, how does this all relate to your beliefs and mindset?
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The Power of Your Beliefs
If your belief is that you’re going to fail at something, you’re much more likely to attract or notice things around you that will hinder you from succeeding. You will increase your chances of failure by believing that you will. It will become a self-fulfilling prophecy!
If you have your mind made up about something, you’re much more likely to attract or notice things around you that will confirm what you believe to be true.
If you’re dwelling in fear, you’ll see or think of more things to be afraid of.
For example, let’s say your fear is that others will judge you for choosing a new career. This fear feeds into your mindset and you start to really believe it – that other people are going to judge you. As a result, this fear influences your actions. So, when you speak to your friend about choosing a new career, even if you’re pushing that fear away as much as you can, your friend may still sense your worry. And no matter how your friend responds, your fear of judgement will have you analysing their every word. You’ll overthink their reaction, even if it’s actually positive. You’ll wear and tear yourself down, all in your mind, even if you know deep down that any true friend would support you and want you to succeed.
Fear doesn’t know logic or reason. Fear is like a backseat driver – sometimes they shout out advice or a warning that could actually save your life! But often times, Fear is just distracting you from the reality of the situation. Fear can’t see clearly from back there, it doesn’t know what’s actually life-threatening, and what is just a fleeting concern.
Most of us live in relative comfort, with more than we need. If you’re watching this on the internet, chances are you’re not fearing for your life currently!
Yet we all have these fears, these limiting beliefs, that may hold us back from moving forward. If fear is a backseat driver, it’s like a scared child who doesn’t even want to get into the car sometimes.
Our mindset and our beliefs are multi-faceted, complicated things. They can swing from positive to negative in a split second. There’s no good without bad, there’s no light without dark. Fear is engrained within us, it’s human nature to worry and proceed with caution.
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Can You Change Your Mindset?
Logically, it’s easy to dismiss our worries and focus on the Instagram highlight-reels of our lives. But that’s not reality. That’s not manifesting in the real world.
Manifesting in the real world is about riding the waves. Listening to our inner child, learning the depths of our shadow selves. I’ll talk more about all of these ideas concepts in future videos – but for now, let’s just say, we need balance and understanding. We need to be patient with ourselves as we stretch and evolve, as we learn and grow.
Focus on building a positive, reinforced mindset, first and foremost.
Tell yourself every day, as often as you can, that you are capable and worthy.
If you are working towards achieving something that lights you up, that you are driven and passionate about, that makes you and others happy, then chances are that is exactly what you’re meant to be doing with your life. Follow your intuition.
Sure, you can use all the tools and techniques. They really do help, and I wouldn’t be here, making this video, without them. Reading Tarot cards truly kick-started this entire thing!
It all starts with reconnecting to your intuition, and meditating, journaling, visualising, and divination methods will help you get there.
Get to know your intuition and your inner self, pick apart your beliefs – including your fears and what might be holding you back. It won’t be easy, and it will be an ongoing process, but it’s absolutely worth the challenge.
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. So, in the lows, there are highs. For every downside, there is an upside. One cannot exist without the other.
Fully understanding yourself allows you to reinforce a positive mindset, to remind yourself that even the most anxious of moments will pass, that you are capable of working alongside your fear.
It will come back again, and again – but every time, you’ll get that little bit better at reassuring yourself that it’s going to be okay, until you really start to believe it and your mindset has shifted.
In those moments, you are open to receiving. You believe that you are worthy of attracting all that you want into your life. You believe that you are capable of all possibilities. You believe in yourself.
I know, this all sounds a bit cheesy and sentimental, but honestly, those moments are so beautiful, inspiring and absolutely real.
They are moments where I feel aligned with my inner self, connected with my intuition and truly believe, without a doubt, that I will achieve my goals.
Those moments vary – they can last a day, or they can last a minute.
So, hold onto those moments for as long as you can, before life distracts you or doubt creeps in. That’s simply part of the process though! That’s just life isn’t it? There’s always more of everything – the good, the bad, and all that falls in between.
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Before Setting Your 2021 Goals
I don’t know what will unfold in 2021, but I feel myself shifting again. Moving from a state of hibernation, restlessly trying to figure out what I want to do next, as the New Year feels like it’s approaching quickly now. I have to remind myself that it’s okay to just focus on one day at a time.
I don’t know who else needs to know that, too. This video is a reminder for us all – that what we believe of ourselves is important.
Without believing in ourselves, our dreams are impossible.
So, let this video remind you that no matter what difficulties you face, you are worthy and capable of succeeding.
By all means, it’s important to work out the practicalities of life, to plan and schedule, to take inspired action… But if anything is going to delay your progress or stop you in your tracks, it’s most likely your mindset and beliefs.
When you set your goals for 2021, take your mindset and beliefs into account.
Before you write your goals and create your vision board for 2021, spend a moment connecting with your intuition. Look beyond your fears and doubts and ask yourself the following questions. Journal on them if you like! Really delve deep into your mindset and beliefs.
What is your motivation and your purpose – why do you want to achieve your goals?
What will make you truly happy?
What are you afraid of?
What is holding you back?
What is something that you can do every day that will bring you joy?
These questions all may seem so simple, and you might wonder why I’m asking them of you. I’m asking them of myself, too.
The reason behind these questions, and why I believe it’s so important to ask them of ourselves, is because before we can truly begin working towards achieving our goals, before we can manifest anything we want into our lives, we need to know exactly what we want, and why. Only then can we truly set our mind to it and believe that it is possible.
Once we’ve set our minds to it, once we can believe it will happen, then anytime our dreams and goals are challenged, we can remind ourselves that we can find a way through.
You can use all the different tools and techniques to help you get there.
You can build a strong connection to your intuition, so you always know the way.
You can wire your mind and tell the universe what you want – and take inspired action.
Be patient and positive, as much as you can. Persevere. You’re not alone in striving to be better, to achieve more and to find happiness. I hope this YouTube channel and these videos assure you that wherever you are, you are so far from alone. Though our journeys are unique, I hope we can help each other and grow together.
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I hope you enjoyed today’s post! This is just how the words tumbled out, and I know I needed them. I hope you found this helpful, too – and I hope you’ll consider subscribing to my YouTube channel if you haven’t already! I post a new video every Thursday, all about spirituality, manifesting, the Law of Attraction, and divination. If that’s something you’re curious to learn more about, be sure to ring the little bell too so that you’re notified when I post a new video!
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Thank you so much for being here today, and I can’t wait to see you here again next week!
So much love,
Ebonie xx
Resources and Recommendations
Law of Attraction Books I Love:
✧ 'Super Attractor' by Gabrielle Bernstein.' Available from Amazon.
✧ ‘Raise Your Vibration: 111 Practices to Increase Your Spiritual Connection’ by Kyle Gray. Available from Amazon.
✧ ‘The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself’ by Michael A. Singer. Available from Amazon.
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